Thursday, July 16, 2009

i'm being so bad

I should be packing and I'm not. Yesterday I packed almost all day and I thought I would die of exhaustion by 3 pm. As a sympathetic friend said, (who survived an international move last fall) it's not the putting things in boxes that it so tiring, it is the constant stream of decisions you must make for every single object in your entire house. Toss it? Take it? Store it? Give it away? Many people have offered to help but I don't know what they can help with. They can't be the ones to decide what to do with my stuff. And yet I'm getting worried that J and I won't be able to handle it on our own. We supposedly leave for Maine is less than two weeks.

My son's next-to-last seeded baseball team beat the number one team last night. He looooves baseball. He would play all day every day if he could. I'm sad that there will be no baseball for him in Spain!

And here's what I'm all-out crying about: Guthrie's 2009-2010 season.

9 comments:

celtishbee said...

Yay, Marcus!!!

Mallory said...

Man, The Dollhouse! I would love to see that live! But if it makes you feel any better, you're not missing too much with Macbeth. No, I've never seen it live (although I've see enough parts of it live), but I really do not like that play at all. Love Shakespeare. Hate Macbeth.

Michelle said...

Oh packing. I hate packing. It's the worst at the end where you start throwing everything in a box and you have to label it "misc". Do you want to come over for dinner sometime? We could grill. In true Mormon fashion, the easiest way to help is to feed someone...

We just got the flier from the Guthrie and were trying to decide whether to get season tickets. Which plays would you see?

Mama Ava said...

You'll have to give up looking at things like the Guthrie season now. You're entering that stage where everything you're leaving behind is so cool. I feel that way a lot when I catch something in the papers or hear about something from friends, even though I'm doing "so cool" things here, too.

As for your stuff...if it's big (furniture) you have to weigh storing against the cost of rebuying. For sentimental stuff--we gave each kid 2 bins--one for things to bring and one for things to leave behind to store. The rest had to go. I assume you're not shipping a container, so your "take" bin will be smaller. I didn't say "boo" to what was put in those bins--it's hard to predict what they'll cling to in those first few months of adjustment, and like us as adults, certain things become more important than we expect. I don't regret anything we brought, but I should've let some stuff in storage go.

Another idea is to have someone in your family make one of those photo books via shutterfly or something. Having that along to remember family and friends is great. We hardly ever look at family pics, but I think we wore those albums out the first months in TZ.

The last thing to worry about is "OMG I'm getting rid of so much." Two years is a long time...If you don't need it enough to bring it, and it's not sentimental, then it's OK to let it go. You won't miss it, I guarantee. In 2 years when you open that storage door, you won't recognize so much of your stuff! It'll be like peeking into someone else's life.

If I were there, I'd feed you, too. It's what Lutherans do as well!

Meg said...

You are bring back so many memories. Last year this very month...moving...packing...realtor clean...All-Star baseball games wondering if they would be able to play here...(the Sunday thing.)

Mama Ava has a great point. Everything you're leaving will look extra good right now. Recognize it and move on. Try to keep your eye on all the reasons you thought this was going to be aMAZing! I guarantee there's something in Spain that will pale the Guthrie season. :)

Anyway...promise...it all works out. Take Michelle up on her offer for food. You'll feel better.

Lucy said...

Ok, Michelle, maybe I will take you up on your offer of food. :-) I was torturing myself looking at the season flyer again last night and I would probably do an 8-play package this year! The only one that doens't sound fab to me is Faith Healer, and even that would be something I'd like to see in a less-stellar season. Now what if I were getting a 4-play package? Ooooh that would be hard. Importance of Being Earnest, Macbeth, M Butterfly, and She Stoops to Conquer. But that's partly taking into consideration the timing of the plays. Really, I think you're safe with any of these. Ella looks awesome.

Mama Ava, I know you are right that we should be careful what we store. I'm trying to be. We have been dealing mostly with books. I took three large laundry baskets to the library the other day. I have one more to take. And that's AFTER I gave away hundreds to friends and family (Ave, yours are on the way). We are supposedly taking 6 or 7 boxes of books that we think we must have, and we have many, many more that we are storing. Let me tell you, I will think twice before purchasing another book. (Except on my new Kindle!) The kids actually don't have much stuff, I'm finding. And it's hilarious to see the amount of clothing we're taking compared to the amount of books. I'll see if I can get a picture. None of us owns much for clothing. I think J owns the most because he doesn't like to throw things out. We're renting our home furnished so luckily there's not much to deal with as far as furniture goes.

Yesterday I think I went over the hump from near despair to thinking this might be doable. Our closets are finally looking bare, our books are almost all boxed, and most things in the house have been sorted as far as what's being done with them.

Mallory said...

Mama Ava is right. Mum always said the last autumn we spent in Maine before moving to a place where the leaves don't turn AT ALL (okay, flame trees do, but they don't really count since it's more the blossoms than the leaves) was the most beautiful autumn she could remember in years. (Chances are, her memory was faulty. Just like this season at the Guthrie for you seems to be the BEST ONE EVER, so did that autumn for Mum.)

I can't wait 'til we move to a new apartment next month. I love throwing things away. It just feels so clean and fresh in the house when all the poorly organized necessities have been put in some sort of order and all the crap has been flushed.

Mallory said...

Although books I don't know if I could do. I'm pretty attached to most of them. There are certain ones I'm just aching for the chance to be rid of -- As I Lay Dying, for example. That book seems to plague me no matter where I go. But the rest... ahhh the rest. The rest are little drips of ambrosia and flakes of manna sent to nurture me from Heaven.

Mama Ava said...

The bummer about books is their weight. Lucy, I think you are so smart to get a kindle--I'm thinking of getting one at Christmas. Books are so important and so hard to get (at least where we are and they are so expensive--good readers in our family just read too too fast!)but they are hard to pack along.